When you are asked with a “Yes” or “No” kind of question, what do you usually answer assuming that answering with either will put you in an awkward situation? Do you say “Yes!” when you meant to say “No!”? That kind of a response should have been tough and difficult. If it was easy for you to say, then “Houston, we have a problem.”
Saying “Yes” when you meant to say “No” is not a Godly response. Its a worldly response. Its also a very compromising response, one that can put those who will be affected–that’s you, in potential misery. Why do we make reckless responses like that?
One factor is our Filipino culture. Its become normal to say “Yes” when you really meant to say “No”. We just swallow and accept whatever possible consequence may be of not saying what we really want.
Check out what the Bible says about this in 2 Corinthians 1:17, “You may be asking why I changed my plan. Do you think I make my plans carelessly? Do you think I am like people of the world who say ‘Yes’ when they really mean ‘No’?” Why did the Apostle Paul say this? Because in his second letter to the Corinthians, he was answering the possible questions these people may have towards him. Paul knows how the Corinthians will question him. Also, its human nature and he does not want to be accused of something that is not true. The Apostle was a very wise man.
That is why we need to be careful of what we say to others. Some will say, “I was just forced to make that kind of response. I was under pressure!” Well then, consequences are in order and those consequences, whether positive or negative, you will have to accept. But wouldn’t it be easier to accept a consequence when you made a response that was true to your heart? Yes, it would mean you will have to give more effort, time and resources to fulfill your response, but your conscience will be clear. In one way, in the context of one’s employment, that is a good thing. But if the response is toward someone you value (or not), meaning a person, then it may have dire consequences.
Consider a response that requires your presence in an event, you said “Yes” to come when you really do not have any intention of coming. Shame on you. And we do it quite often. That’s not good. We need to move towards a more Godly response. One where what we say is what we mean. Remember, if you have accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior, you have already been transferred from the kingdom of darkness into te kingdom of light. In this kingdom where Jesus rules, we cannot afford to make worldly responses to each other. We need to practice doing the right response, the true response, the Godly response of saying what is really in our heart. If it means saying “No.” then say it! The Bible said in Mark 5:37 in the New Living Translation, “Just say a simple, ‘Yes, I will,’ or ‘No, I won’t.’ Anything beyond this is from the evil one.“