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New Year Resolution or New Year Dissolution?

New Year Resolution or New Year Dissolution?

Every new year invites us to dream again—new goals, new habits, new resolve. For some, these resolutions take root and flourish. Yet others feel stuck before they even begin. The problem is not always a lack of desire or discipline. More often, it is the weight of...

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Choosing Grace Over Grudges

Choosing Grace Over Grudges

Bitterness always promises power, but it never delivers. It tells us that holding on will protect us, justify us, or somehow balance the scales. Yet the longer we clutch our grudges, the more they clutch us. They drain our joy, cloud our judgment, and quietly shape...

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Do Not Let Anger Define You

Do Not Let Anger Define You

A clenched fist can’t shake hands. It can’t build bridges, make peace, or welcome friendship. Neither can it applaud—because anger always silences celebration. What feels like strength in the heat of the moment often leaves us weaker, lonelier, and chained to...

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Bitter or Better

Bitter or Better

One little letter can change everything Life throws curveballs—betrayals, losses, disappointments. We can’t dodge every hurt, but we can decide what it does to us. The gap between “bitter” and “better” is just one letter, yet it can shape our whole story. I -...

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Hope is Not Blind Optimism

Hope is Not Blind Optimism

Hope is not blinded optimism. It doesn't ignore the storm or pretend the thunder doesn't shake your world. Genuine hope looks the storm square in the eye, feels the rain sting, and still whispers: "The sun will rise." Blind optimism denies reality; hope embraces it....

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Mind Full or Mindful?

Mind Full or Mindful?

When our minds are constantly racing, it’s often because they’re carrying things they were never meant to hold. If you’re feeling mentally and emotionally cluttered, perhaps it’s time to let go—not of responsibilities, but of what quietly drains your peace. Here are...

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Truth is Like Surgery. It Hurts but Heals.

Truth is Like Surgery. It Hurts but Heals.

About 20 years ago, I underwent a minor surgery. When my doctor told me the diagnosis, I tried denying it but eventually accepted the truth. The surgery was uncomfortable — painful even — but necessary. I didn’t enjoy the process, but I’m grateful I went through it....

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How to Start the Week Victorious

How to Start the Week Victorious

Mondays set the tone for the rest of the Week. Want to start strong? Begin with intention, not just activity. Win the Morning. Start with a small victory—wake up on time, breathe deeply, and move with purpose. A clear morning leads to a focused mind. Set a Weekly...

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