Malachi 2:14 says, “For I hate divorce!” says the Lord, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,” says the Lord of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”
Matthew 19:7 says, “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?” Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”
I just realized something why God hates divorce according to the verse above. It just suddenly came to my mind.
This has to do with getting married in a “religious” environment such as a church or married by a spiritual minister. When a couple is married in such a situation, there is the implicit admission that you are asking God to witness and bless your marriage. Unconsciously or not, you are asking God to be in the middle of your marriage.
Why get married at all in church and the ceremony officiated by a spiritual minister if later on one will have the intention of not honoring their covenant with God by divorcing their spouse–for that matter, here in the Philippines, separate legally or worse, annul the marriage?
I think this is the reason why God said that those joined by God, let no man separate. God blessed that marriage when we asked Him to. Remember the passage, “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” Matthew 18:20? I believe that in any marriage ceremony, God is in there with us.
We dishonor God by separating from our spouse by whatever means. It should be our responsibility to keep the marriage intact. Although God makes a provision to allow such proceedings, unfaithfulness, God still does not encourage it. God designed the family, and it pains Him to see it broken.
For the singles, we should not get married just because we are pressured to–by parents, circumstance, etc.–and ask God to bless it. For those who are married, if we are in a challenging situation in the married life, let us remember that we not only made a covenant with each other, we also made a covenant with God to honor the marriage. Let us uphold those covenants. Nothing is impossible with God.
Let me know what you think.